Happy Valentine's

It takes a lot of courage, intuition, and letting go of control to love or be loved. It doesn’t always work out how we want, and a lot of the time does - but in ways we could’ve never dreamt of ourselves. Today, that’s what strikes me: no matter how much we try to control the tide of where love goes and who gives it to us, we’re ultimately, unknowingly building experience and heartbreak and discovery that leads us to who and what we’re sincerely meant for. 

There’s no one size fits all to love - but there’s one principle that regardless of what form it exists in for you, it’s non-negotiable. Go where you’re valued. When we’re in a midst of those who don’t value us, we hurt inside and out. We falsely start to believe the world is horrible, because the way one person treats us is horrible. Just as great, nourishing love can heal and transform - avoidant “love” can shatter our hope and perception of reality.

Choose love actively. Choose people who don’t leave you wondering, “what was that?”, choose second chances, but not third, fourth or fifth ones. Don’t let anyone in this world convince you that you’re unworthy or unreasonable for needing what you need to feel loved. The pursuit of that feeling is what makes life interesting and three dimensional and beautiful.

Enjoy today, treat it as specially or mundanely as you’d like. Sincerely know that whether you’re spending it with someone or alone, both are achievements. There’s so much behind the photos and posts and texts people send that you don’t know - good and bad. Take the public affection for what it is: a moment of shared happiness. And always know this; love comes in different forms, it’s constant - and there’s never a lack of it in the world, if you’re willing to realise that.